In this first post of our new, just made up series entitled “Light is the Strongest Disinfectant,” we bring you a blog that has been on line less than a month, yet is already changing behavior. We’re writing, of course, of Shit People Say to Women Directors (SPSTWD) on tumblr. Very cool.
As the son of a woman; brother to two women; partner to a woman; and father to two women, I’ve come to realize that women really do have to put up with things that guys don’t.
As any of the women in my life might say: “duh.”
Even with these bona fides, however, I have to admit to more than one cringe-worthy instance where I was guilty of contributing to the problem.
Though to be fair to me, nothing as recent nor as ludicrous as most of what I’m seeing on SPSTWD.
Color me somewhere between embarrassed, ashamed, annoyed (with myself), and…giving myself a break and just moving on.
What’s even worse? I know I’ve said stupid shit in any number of scenarios, women present or not. I just like to think that with age comes a modicum of wisdom and that the frequency of my transgressions has declined.
Your mileage may vary.
A recent post from SPSTWD:
Fan Mail: Your Blog is Working
I was at work PAing on a film set yesterday when a male Grip who has been calling me pet names since we started (even though I have asked him not to) saw me enter the room, started to say something, but he hesitated, then said:
“I’m going to just bite my tongue here because I don’t want to get quoted on that Shit People Say to Women Directors blog.”
Okay so maybe your blog hasn’t changed his shitty attitude (what can?), but it certainly shut him up and saved me one less demoralizing remark at work. For that, I thank you a million times over.
Shit People Say to Women Directors & Other Women in Film
Welcome to Shit People Say To Women Directors (& Other Women In Film). We are an anonymous open blog for all individuals identifying as women who work in film & television. It’s a crazy business, especially for women. Until now, we haven’t had a platform to share some of the let’s call them “unusual” things people have said to us while working. This is for catharsis and to expose some of the absurd barriers women face in the entertainment business. Open to all women in film. Please feel free to submit stories, quotes, images, gifs, whatever, to the curators. We’d love to share your story.
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(cover photo credit: snap from SPSTWD)